Differentiate yourself from others and just be you
Have you ever noticed how much we try to replicate ourselves to be just like other people? It seems as if we have this urge to be the same, look the same, do the same, even believe the same things just so that we can be like the people that we admire. These are just some of the things that we try to replicate.
Ask yourself if you are truly happy. Are you actually happy trying to replicate your life to be the exact same as another individual? I mean, no matter how badly you want to be just like someone else, you never will be. So why is it that you even bother trying? Instead, why not differentiate yourself and stand out from the crowd.
Who am I, and what have I done with the person that I used to be? I had to look in the mirror last night and ask myself this very question last night.
After a full day at the office yesterday, I ended up going out with some friends. We went to a NHL game, and found ourselves having a fun night on the town afterwards. You might think that this is pretty normal for a 25-year-old, but trust me, it has never been normal for me.
I have always been the type of person that doesn’t really like going out. There is just part of me that has feared that if I spend too much time with people, then they might not like the real me. For the most part, I have always kept my friendships pretty “vague.” Actually, thinking about that, I don’t know if you can even call a lot of them real friendships if that’s how I am going to describe it.
Point being, last night was one of the most memorable nights of my life. The friends that I was with last night, they are real friends. They are friends that know about my struggles, friends that would do anything for me, and friends that I could be myself around. I simply am not used to that, which is probably why an average night to them was a memorable night to me.
Driving home after a full night, I let my mind wander as I normally do while driving. I got to thinking about my life now, compared it to how my life used to be, and wondered why it is that I am so happy now. Seriously, the last two months especially have been nothing short of incredible. I have never been this happy.
After some thought, I realized what was making my life so incredible. The answer was something that has always been one of my greatest fears; I was just being me. Ever since I have started to accept my differences and focus on being who I want to be as a person instead of who others want me to be, my entire life has completely changed. And it has changed for the better.
Not only have I made happiness and positivity a priority in my life, but I also don’t feel that I have to live my life hiding who I truly am. I am no longer afraid to be the person that I actually am, and I am no longer afraid of being different. In fact, I want to be different. Why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary.
Think of it this way. Imagine being able to see the light after six years of being locked in a dark room. Dramatic, right? But you would probably feel incredibly blessed and thankful. Well, that is how I feel right now. I finally feel free and alive.
Before embracing my true self, I didn’t know much of anything. I didn’t know what my purpose was, I didn’t know who my real friends were, I didn’t know who I was as a person, and I didn’t know what it meant to love life. I spent so much time trying to hide myself from others, that I actually lost sight of myself.
Now I don’t want to tell you how to live your life. Ultimately, your life is your life, and you have to choose to live it how you see fit. But if I can encourage you to do one thing, it is to differentiate yourself and stand out from the crowd. Be who it is that you are meant to be, embrace your differences, and most importantly, love yourself for the amazing person that you are. This is your life, so just be yourself, and live the best life imaginable.
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