Daily Blog #331
The mind can sometimes be a dark and scary place to live in. A place where only your fears seem to be present, and a place where only the cold and dark deep truths of your life lie. The best way to explain it, your mind is a black hole that is only sucking you inwards. No matter how far and deep you try to look through, you can’t manage to see the light through the darkness of your fears. I get it as I have been there.
After many long dark and grueling days of feeling this exact way, I was somehow fortunate enough to find my strength. Not only did I just find my strength, but I managed to combat my fears and find the light to guide me towards living a better life. How did I find the strength to combat my fears? By recognizing what it was that I was actually fearful of and by acting on those fears. That’s right, it was taking action on my very fears themselves that guided me towards living a better life.
When we think about our fears, we usually think that we need to shy away from them as far as possible in order to find what it is that we are looking for. Almost as if everything that we desire in life is on the complete opposite end of the spectrum in which our fears lie. But this just isn’t the case.
Our fears exist for a reason. Whatever we are afraid of is simply our minds way of trying to make our lives safer and more pleasurable. What our minds are preventing us from doing, though, is preventing us from reaching out, learning to take chances on ourselves, experiencing what failure feels like, and ultimately learning from our many failures.
As much as it may pain you to think about, everything that you want in life lies on the opposite side of your fears. This doesn’t mean trying to find a way around your fears in order to reach the things you desire. This means embracing your fears and plowing through them like the unstoppable freight train that you are.
Life isn’t about running from your fears. Life is about getting from where you are now to where it is that you want to be. It’s about taking chances on yourself, learning from your mistakes, growing as a person, and repeating this exact process each and every single day for the rest of your life.
If you are someone who constantly tries to run from your fears, what are you actually teaching yourself? That you should spend the rest of your life playing it safe? That you are content with the person that you are and don’t care to progress any further in life? Or that you are incapable of taking any chances on yourself. Whatever way you look at it, you are gaining absolutely nothing by running from your fears and are living a rather boring life. Again, I know this because I have lived like this for years.
We all run from our fears for the same reason – because we are scared. While what we are scared of might be different, the reason we run, is because we are too scared to face our fears head-on. It’s a pretty simple concept to understand: we run from our fears because we are scared of our fears, and all we want in life is to feel comfortable.
Just like with anything else in life, how do you overcome an obstacle? You don’t overcome an obstacle by turning around and going back to where you came from, or by hiding, or by making excuses for yourself. You overcome an obstacle by bulldozing your way through, by failing, by learning from your failures, and by repeating the process.
Now for the record, if you are someone who is afraid of heights I am not suggesting that you go jump off of a bridge to see if you will survive. Let’s be logical here. I am simply suggesting that you learn to embrace the fears that are prohibiting you from achieving the things you want to achieve.
Are you going to fail? Of course, you are going to fail. If you don’t fail, then you simply aren’t pushing yourself hard enough. But your failures will never define you unless you allow them to do so. Failure simply means that you are trying to grow in life and that you are taking the chance on yourself that you deserve.
Whatever you fear in life, always remember one thing. Remember that you are stronger than all of your fears combined. Be willing to believe in yourself, be willing to take a chance, and never settle for anything less than living the best life imaginable. This is your one life to live, so embrace your fears, and make the most of it.
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