One Way That I Boosted My Happiness In Life

boosted my happiness
boosted my happiness
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Daily Blog #309

Full disclaimer here, my life still is not perfect. Every day I am making more mistakes than I can possibly keep track of. In fact, I would dare say that I am making more mistakes now than I was before actually being happy in my life. But that is the one thing that boosted my happiness – when I realized that I am far from perfect, and when I started allowing myself to take risks and make mistakes.

When focusing on perfection, I would follow a certain pattern, a set of guidelines if you will on what I thought perfection looked like. Do, act, live, and be as straightforward as possible so that the world around me would not notice how imperfect I truly was. And if you would have asked me, I probably would have told you that my life was far more enjoyable than it actually was.

I hope you can see the issue here. Setting a certain set of guidelines and following the rules of what you believe perfection to look like does not allow much room for trial and error, or for any learning opportunities. It was a “stick to this way or die” mentality. While that may seem slightly aggressive, that is honestly how my mind felt about embracing and accepting any and all changes.

It wasn’t until after years of striving for perfection that I finally embraced the fact that nothing that I do in life will ever be perfect. No matter what I strive to achieve, there will always be room for improvement. This isn’t to say that I don’t think that I am good enough, but rather a way to push myself to become that much better.

So how long did it take me to give up on perfection? Well, I have only given up on it recently here, and I am now twenty-five years old. So yeah, I have spent all twenty-five years of my existence thus far chasing after something that is not attainable.

Surely we all know that there is no such thing as perfection, right?! Well, see it this way. Telling me that perfection didn’t exist would have been like telling an entrepreneur that they would never build their dreams successfully. I would have taken one look at you, may have even told you to get lost, and would have tried to do everything that I could to prove you wrong.

In the end, though, my goal wasn’t really to be perfect. Instead, my goal probably would have been your acceptance. I didn’t care about the outcome as much as I did about the beliefs of others. It seems so lame to think that acceptance is what I sought the most in my life, but it’s true.

Fast forward to the time in my life when I realized that I was chasing something that was unachievable (again, this is a pretty recent realization), and I can honestly say that I have never been happier with the person that I am. Ha yeah, I found happiness in giving up on something that I spent all twenty-five years of my life chasing.

For me, giving up on trying to be perfect felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off of my shoulders. I no longer have the desire to try and please others or to prove myself to anyone, I have quit caring so much about what other people think of me, and every day, I am enjoying this journey that is my life more than I did the day before.

I would be lying if I said that all of my struggles and fears had miraculously vanished. But that being said, they have diminished significantly. I have become less of a creature of habit, and I am focusing more on living my life in the present moment. I allow myself to make mistakes, and instead of trying to be perfect, I now strive to simply be my best.

That’s what I want you to take away from this. No matter what we do, no matter what we have achieved, there is always going to be room for improvement. You may be the most successful person in the world, but you can always be more successful. You may be the happiest person in the world, but you will still experience some levels of negativity. And you could be the richest person in the world, but there is always a way for you to make more money. See where I am going? There is no such thing as being perfect as there will always be room for improvement.

Go out today and focus on one thing. Don’t focus on giving people the answer that you think they want to hear. Don’t focus on trying to be perfect. Give up on being perfect, and instead, focus on being the best that you can be. I guarantee that you will instantly feel a sense of gratification that you never knew existed by simply acknowledging your many imperfections.

Michael Bonnell



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