Daily Blog #319
Do you want to know what’s fun about this whole self-improvement thing? The fact that I am able to look back on my life, smile at how far I have come, and laugh while asking myself what the hell I was thinking. But knowing how life works, I realize that I will probably be sitting down in the future smiling, laughing, and questioning the things that I am doing today. That’s just how life goes.
I have given up on trying to strive for the impossible expectation that I am ever going to be perfect. With the mistakes that consume my past and with the mistakes that I am now excited to make in my future, perfection is simply out of the equation.
But not all mistakes are equal. Some can taunt you for a mere moment or two, while others can taunt you for years. The longer the mistake taunts you, the greater the impact that it had on your life.
Now I am not saying that you should avoid making mistakes. In fact, I personally believe that you should learn to love making mistakes. Making mistakes means that you are breaking out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself. What I am saying is that you should avoid making meaningless mistakes. And if you want to always be one step ahead, then you especially need to avoid making these ones. Here are the 3 biggest mistakes that we can make.
1. Caring what others think about you.
To me, this is the most important one to avoid simply because of the impact that it has had on my life. Not everybody is going to like you, and not everybody is going to agree with you. And the more that you try to shape every piece of your life solely for the acceptance of others, the more that you are going to dislike yourself.
This is your one and only life to live. It is far too short and far too precious to be controlled by the likings and approval of others. This is your life, so start doing more of the things that you want to be doing, and live it how you want to live it.
2. Doubting yourself and giving up.
You got a two-for-one here, but doubting yourself and giving up on your dreams will cripple you forever. What you think to be is the truth that you will live by. If you think you can achieve something, you will. If you don’t believe that you have what it takes, then the smallest struggle is going to break you.
Once you give up on yourself, it’s all over. You will never know that answer of what you could have achieved had you kept battling, and you will never have the same sense of self-belief ever again. Because you gave up once, giving up is an option that will always lurk in the back of your mind.
3. Not taking action.
If you want to get from Point A to Point B, then the only option is to suck it up and work towards getting there. You can think about achieving your goals, and imagine how incredible your life would be all you want, but until you start to take action towards fulfilling your goals, they are only going to remain goals instead of becoming your reality.
Are you going to fail? Probably. But the only way that you will ever know is if you at least try. Every second from here on out that you spend thinking about your goals instead of pursuing them is time that you are wasting. You are only going to delay how long it will be until they become your reality. The sooner you start working towards your goals, the sooner you will achieve your goals. The longer you wait, the longer it is going to take you to achieve your goals. Not only that, but the longer you wait, the less likely you are to even start.
Do I regret?
Would I change parts of my past if I could? Sure! But I can’t, so I don’t spend time dwelling on it. Instead, I use my past as a way to shape how I want to live in the present and future moment. So no, I don’t regret my past. I am actually incredibly thankful for all that has happened. Everything that has occurred up to this point in my life (both good and bad) has helped to shape me into who I am today. And today, I am living better than ever. All because I learned from these mistakes and decided to embrace the imperfect person that I was born to be.
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