Not to get on the whole bandwagon of setting goals for yourself for the upcoming year, but have you thought about some of the things that you want to achieve? Maybe it’s within the next year, or maybe it’s within the next ten.
Regardless of the time, why haven’t you started pursuing those goals sooner? What’s the number one thing that’s holding you back from achieving your goals?
As much as I would like to say that my fear of failure is what’s held me back in the past from pursuing my goals, it’s truthfully not. The number one thing that was constantly holding me back from fully committing to my goals was the fact that I didn’t want to be judged by those around me.
I didn’t want to be made fun of for having “abnormal” goals and dreams. I didn’t want others to look at me and wonder what was wrong with me for wanting to achieve the things that I do. Plain and simple, I didn’t want to be judged.
Judgment is like fear. The more we hold onto it, the more it controls our life.
No matter what we do, there are always going to be people out there who are not going to agree with the choices and goals that we pursue. There are always going to be people out there who are going to judge us whether we are right or wrong. And there are always going to be people out there who are going to try to hold us back from making the most of our lives.
None of that matters, though, because long term, if you can control your beliefs, then you can control your destiny.
Believe In Yourself
There is something important that I want you to know about beliefs. Take a moment, write this down, memorize it, fully absorb it.
Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. Why? Because if you don’t fully believe that you have the capability of achieving a certain goal, then you aren’t going to start taking action towards that goal.
But if you do believe that you have the capability of achieving a certain goal, then you are going to instinctively work harder towards achieving that goal. You may not have achieved that goal, yet, but you know that you are going to. There is no other option.
How To Believe In Yourself
When you change your beliefs, you change your reality. I want to share with you some tips that I use to help reinforce self-belief, and 5 tips that will help you to believe in yourself as well.
1. Free Yourself From Negative Beliefs
How do you do this? By accepting all that has happened up to this point in your life for what it is and viewing every obstacle or struggle as a learning opportunity instead of a failure.
You are not a failure. Your failures don’t make you a failure. See your mistakes as learning opportunities, pick yourself right back up, and keep moving forward with everything that you have.
2. Change Your Environment
Believe it or not, the environment you are in plays a crucial factor in determining what you will achieve. If you do not surround yourself with the right people, then you are not going to reach your full potential.
It is said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. Spend your time around five alcoholics, and there is a good chance you will be the sixth. Spend your time around five individuals who complain about everything, and there is a good chance that you will be the sixth.
On the contrary, however, if you spend time around five successful individuals, there is a good chance that you will be the sixth. If you spend time around five individuals who embrace mistakes and repeatedly get back up time and time again, and there is a good chance that you will be the sixth.
The point is, spend your time around those who you most want to resemble.
3. Keep Track of Your Progress
Mark off every little victory as a win. Did you get an “A” on a paper, keep track of it. Did you nail that work presentation, celebrate it. Did you take a chance on yourself towards achieving your dreams, embrace it.
The more you celebrate the progress you are making, the more it’s going to reinforce the belief that you can actually do this! This isn’t to say that you are going to be able to achieve your goals and dreams with ease. But it’s saying that you are willing to progress towards your dreams no matter how long it may take to achieve them.
4. Envision Where You See Yourself In 10 Years
Stop what you are doing, and picture where you see yourself in 10 years. Pay close attention to every little detail, every little emotion, and every little aspect of life. It feels real, doesn’t it? That’s because your mind can see yourself living the life that you just envisioned.
All that’s left to do now is to work for it with every chance you get. Keep that vision in your mind, replay it over and over again, and hold it true to your heart. Affirm to yourself that you can and will achieve the very goals and dreams that you are thinking about.
The more you envision yourself living the life you dream of, the more real it becomes, that is, of course, until it becomes real.
5. Start Your Day With Positive Beliefs
I was recently talking with my boss about things that I wanted to help implement in the workplace that would better my team.
Immediately, I thought of some gratitude and positive exercises that we could all do.
When I was going through my darkest days of depression, it didn’t seem like any amount of medication or therapy was going to help me. I was hopeless and I thought my life was over.
The main things that helped me to start believing in myself again was starting my day with positive beliefs. The more I trained my mind to be positive first thing in the morning, the more that, that positive behavior followed me throughout the course of the day.
Not after long, I was finally willing to start taking more chances on myself. I started to believe I had what was required to get more out of my life, and that’s because I would start my day on a positive note and set a positive intention for the day.
Make yourself a promise. From this point moving forward, make yourself a promise that you are going to believe in yourself no matter what. You are the only person who can determine your destiny. Nobody else.
There are going to be times where you are going to face adversity and question your capabilities, but always remember your true strength.
Practice positive self-talk on a daily basis, remove any amount of negativity from your life, and believe in yourself – even when others don’t.