Often times, we are led to believe that perfection is the key to a happier and more successful life. When things seem perfect, we are happy. If things are not 100% perfect in our lives, then we might as well just kiss the idea of ever being happy or successful goodbye.
We obsess over perfection more than anything else. Well… at least I do. I find myself constantly obsessing over things that are stupid to obsess over in the first place, and also things that I really can’t control even if I tried.
Let me explain what I mean.
As much as I have changed and grown throughout the last year or so, there was a time in my life where I obsessed over the idea of having others envy my life. I obsessed over the thought of always having the right answer and admitting that I might be wrong, and I still do obsess over having every little detail in life go exactly how I envisioned it to inside of my head. If something isn’t perfect, then I allow my emotions to get the best of me and I tend to beat myself up for not achieving the unachievable – perfection.
What I fail to realize during these times, and what many others fail to realize as well, is that nobody is perfect – nobody has ever been perfect and nobody will ever be perfect.
Being The Best You Can Be
“No one is you and that is your power.” – Dave Grohl
Instead of trying to be perfect, why not try being the best that you can be. Why are we so fixated on being better than others instead of being better than the person we were yesterday?
Who cares if somebody else has more talent than you, if they make more money than you, if they are stronger than you, or any other characteristic that we allow to define us. No one is you and that is your power. As much as you want to be just like somebody else, you simply never will be. There are always going to be characteristics that define you from every other living person. So ask yourself something… if you are never going to be exactly like somebody else, why even bother trying to be? Why waste your life, your talents, and your greatness trying to mimic somebody else’s?
When we focus on perfection, we are only preventing ourselves from ever being able to move forward in life. We start to focus on our flaws more than our strengths, we start turning everything into a competition instead of doing things just for the fun of it, and we start losing all sense of enjoyment in life.
That’s what not life is about. Life is about loving who you are as a person and making the most out of every opportunity that you have in front of you. The only way you can do so is by letting go of perfection, and instead, focusing on being the best you can be.
Be Willing To Break Out
Here’s the deal, all of the times that I was too scared to take a risk on myself, a lot of my fear stemmed from the fact that I wanted to be perfect. I wouldn’t take risks because I didn’t want to see myself fail. When you are experiencing self-confidence and self-esteem issues, you try to hold onto every ounce of pride and dignity that you have – even if that means you never progress in life.
But the craziest thing happened to me. It wasn’t until I started to take more and more risks on myself, and it wasn’t until I started to fail more often, that I began to find some amount of happiness in my life.
See, I was always under the assumption that happiness came from perfection. In all reality, happiness comes from living your life to the best of your ability. It comes from taking chances on yourself, from breaking out of your comfort zone, and from simply being the best you can be. If you aren’t willing to move forward, then you are never going to progress.
Be Obsessed With Being The Best You Can Be
Forget about other people telling you what you can and can’t do. This is your life to live. Don’t compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to the only person who can control your life – yourself. Take risks, embrace failure, grow from your mistakes, and just be obsessed with being the best you can be. Be kind to others, be kind to yourself, and treat every day as if it is your last.
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