Let’s face it, there are things in life that we all fear, and when we fear, we also experience a feeling of self-doubt.
I’ll admit that I experience these two emotions on a daily basis. In fact, we all do. It’s part of being human. Any time we walk into an unfamiliar place, try something new, or do anything outside of our comfort zone, we experience some degree of fear and self-doubt.
While it’s true that some may experience more fear and self-doubt than others, and while some may be able to manage fear and self-doubt more effectively than others, they are things that continue to impact us all on a daily basis.
It causes us to stop in our tracks and prevents us from seizing opportunities. It makes taking risks and chances on ourselves incredibly difficult. And overall, it can make life feel limiting – like no matter how hard you try, you will never amount to anything more than the person you are today.
At least this is how I feel when fear and self-doubt fill my mind.
Just to give you some insight, I pass up generally every opportunity that requires me to spend a significant amount of money. The more I think about spending money, the more I begin to fear losing it and self-doubt then settles in causing me to question if I have the ability to make it back or not.
This is only one of the many things in my life that results in fear and causes me to doubt myself. There are many, many more.
7 Piece of Advice I Use To Beat Fear And Self-Doubt
But despite my many mistakes, this is an area of my life that I have improved on significantly over the last year or so. Today, I want to share with you 7 pieces of advice that I use in my daily life to beat fear and self-doubt as I believe they will be beneficial for you as well.
1. Identify the cause.
Admitting there is a problem is the first and foremost important step to dealing with fear and self-doubt. If you do not admit that there is a problem at hand, then you are not willing to take the action steps required to overcome that problem.
What are you really afraid of? Are you worried about the potential of failure? Are you worried about the potential of success? While many of us fear all of these crazy outcomes and possibilities, a lot of our fear stems from within. We fear what others will think about us, how we feel about ourselves, and if we will ever live up to the potential that we have already mapped out inside of our minds.
When you think about pursuing a goal but stop yourself short of starting, try to pinpoint that fear. What’s holding you back? Only once you realize the cause can you then start to put a plan into action for how you are going to overcome that fear.
2. Remember all of your successes.
One thing that I have started to do recently is to keep a little success/accomplishment journal close to me. It’s a journal where I write down all of the small and big victories that I accomplish over the course of the day.
For me, it’s incredibly beneficial in helping me to beat fear and self-doubt because it allows me to look back and reflect on all of the times that I have accomplished a fear that stood in my way instead of allowing that fear to defeat me. There is something about seeing all that I have accomplished that gives me the motivation I need to be willing to branch out more and take more risks on myself.
Often times when we fear and doubt our abilities, we are only focusing on what could go wrong instead of all that could potentially go right. By having an accomplishment/success journal, it helps to remind you of what can happen when you decide to take action towards the things that matter the most to you.
3. Keep a journal for all of your thoughts.
Similar to a success/accomplishment journal, it’s also a good idea to have a journal for any and all of your thoughts. Good thoughts, bad thoughts, it doesn’t matter. What’s important is that you always have an outlet to release your thoughts and build on them.
I know that when I experience fear and self-doubt, I often feel isolated, alone, and trapped. Even though I know better, I don’t feel like I can talk to anybody about my struggles. Well, when I keep to myself and all of my fears and doubts just stay put in my mind, they continue to gather strength until I feel like I am ready to break.
Keeping a journal has done wonders for me. In the times that I don’t feel like I can talk to anybody, I am able to release both positive and negative feelings and simply get them out of my head. Releasing emotions is a crucial step to overcome them and to move forward.
4. Visualize yourself overcoming your fears and doubts.
The next time you experience fear and doubt, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine yourself overcome all of the obstacles that stand in your way. Imagine all of the times that you have overcome similar obstacles in the past. Imagine how different your life would be if you were able to overcome those obstacles. And imagine yourself having the strength you need to overcome these obstacles.
All right, now stop imagining because it’s your reality. You do have the strength to overcome the obstacles that stand in your way. You are stronger than any of your fears and doubts. All you need to do is simply believe in yourself.
Visualization has helped me because I am a person who often worries about negative outcomes before I take action. But when I visualize a positive outcome or past outcomes that I have already conquered, it gives me the motivation and strength to act on my thoughts. As well all know, taking the initial step of action is always the most difficult part.
5. Acknowledge that failure is the pathway to success.
No matter what your thoughts are on failure, you need to embrace the fact that there is always the possibility of failure. If you aren’t willing to experience failure, then you aren’t willing to experience success either.
We all deal with the fear of failure to some extent. We also deal with the fear of uncertainty, change, and not living to our full potential. Unfortunately, most of us allow these feelings to dictate our actions.
For this reason, acknowledging that may fail and still finding the strength to take action anyways is what is going to separate you from others. You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t even need to be great. All you really need is the drive and tenacity to get back up and keep taking action until you get it right.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Comparison is the thief of all joy. The more you compare yourselves to others, the more you are allowing others to control your happiness.
The thing is, others may be more accomplished and successful than you are. Don’t compare your beginning to the accomplished masters. Don’t start something new and look at somebody who is accomplished and wonder why you haven’t achieved the same success. You don’t know how long others have been working, how hard they have been working, or how many times they failed before they got it right.
A perfect example of this would be James Dyson. Dyson is now worth $13.9 billion dollars. One may look at his success and envy it. Rightfully so. I mean, the man did create one of the most well-known household names in today’s day and age.
But what about the failure that he endured along the way? Are we envious of that? Would any of us be willing to endure the same level of failure that Dyson did? Before finally creating a functioning vacuum, Dyson had built 5,126 vacuums that didn’t work. But he never gave up and that’s why he is where he is today.
The point is, follow your own path, focus on yourself, and do everything that you can do to succeed. It doesn’t matter what others do or have done. All that matters is what you are willing to do from this point moving forward.
7. Take action and learn as you go.
The only way you are ever going to fully beat fear and doubt is if you take action and learn as you go. You aren’t going to hold all of the answers right away, but if you take action and are willing to learn as you go, then you are only going to continue to grow from who you once were into who it is that you want to be.
Thinking (especially overthinking) creates and amplitudes fear. Taking action is the one and only thing that will help you to beat fear and self-doubt because it’s the only way you will have certainty. One of the best ways to get over fear is to immediately take action before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it.
Fear and doubt are temporary, but never even giving yourself the chance to succeed because of your fears and doubts are permanent. Don’t get to the end of your life and wish you would have done more with the time that you had. Make the most out of every day of your life and continue to make strides to beat fear and self-doubt.