When it comes to life and what we want to get out of it, I think it is fair to say that most of us have similar goals. We want to be happy and we want to live for as long as we possibly can. I preach this a lot, but I personally believe that everyone has a choice in life. We can choose to live a life focused on love and positivity, or we can live a life focused on hate and negativity. While many of us want to live a happy life, there are few who choose hate and negativity. When people focus their life around hate and negativity, they are not only making their lives miserable, but they are also making the lives of others miserable. This is why I encourage you to be the solution, not the problem. Live your life focused on love and positivity
As humans, we often times try to take the easy way out. This can be with work, friendships, relationships, and just your overall mood. It is far easier to be negative than it is to be positive. Remember yesterday when you walked through the store and laughed in your head because of what someone was wearing or for what they were buying? I know I do. Now when was the last time that you went out of your way to tell that person that they looked nice? Probably never, right? The reason for that is because it is much harder to go out of your way and compliment someone than it is to judge them.
When we judge others, we are doing nothing but trying to feed our own ego. I am only using this store analogy as an example, but there are times when I have walked into a store with sweats and a ripped shirt (probably because I was too lazy to get dressed for the day). Even when I was looking like a mess, I still would judge others. Why? Because it makes us feel better about our own appearance. It gives us the slightest boost of self-gratification that we are looking for in life.
Why do we judge when we know nothing about them? We do not know the circumstances of other’s lives. Maybe they have the day off of work and were too tired to get dressed for the day. Maybe they can’t afford nicer clothes. The best of all, maybe they are happy with their appearance and could care less about what anyone thinks. We simply do not know their circumstances, therefore, we should not judge based on appearance.
With that said, it is important to point out that none of us are perfect. Do I still find myself judging others on a daily basis? Of course I do, but not always in the harsh way that I used to. I think we all find ourselves judging others on a daily basis. It is like what I said in yesterday’s post, How To STOP Taking Things Personally, when we see something that we are not used to, it is going to make us uncomfortable. The feeling of being uncomfortable is what ultimately leads us to judge. Just because others might choose to live their life in a different way,
Since developing a more positive and motivation mindset, I have noticed that I am judging others a lot less. Why? Because comparing myself to others is never the key. By constantly comparing yourself to others, you are living an image that is not your true self. You are living a life focused about an image that others have instead of trying to create your own. Plus, it doesn’t do you any good. Aside from the brief moment you might feel a sense of self-gratification, there will not be any benefits that come with judging others.
When we compare ourselves to others, we are not only hindering our own image, but we are also becoming the problem instead of the solution. The world is already too divided the way it is. If you truly want to make a difference and leave a legacy, focus on motivation and positivity instead of comparison and negativity. Do everything that you can do in your power to be apart of the solution, not the problem.
Michael Bonnell
7/1/2018
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