I used to be a complainer. No, not just you average complainer, I would complain a lot.
It didn’t matter what happened or whose fault it was, I would complain about anything and everything that didn’t go my way.
I would complain at school for getting poor grades. Surely it wasn’t the fact that I put little to no time into the project and it just flat out sucked. No, it had to be the professor’s fault. The professor just had it out for me, and no matter how hard I worked, I would never get a good grade so why even try.
This mentality carried over into my job. If I wasn’t meeting my monthly quota, then again, it wasn’t my fault. I would complain about being sabotaged by my company. My company had sabotaged me and wasn’t giving me the right tools to succeed. That, and I just simply couldn’t control the actions of our customers.
Here’s what happened. Because I had always been so focused on the negatives, my life became nothing but one gigantic negative bombshell. I would complain from sunup to sundown, from Monday to Sunday, and every second in between.
As I look back, I now see how blessed I have been throughout the course of my life, and how much I have taken for granted. My life has been nothing but one big blessing, and it took me 25 years to finally realize all that I already have.
I have a family who I love and who loves me to death, two amazing parents who have given me everything that my heart could ever desire, two sisters who constantly go out of their way for me, and I am surrounded by amazing friends who would take a bullet for me. What more is there to need in life?
Be Grateful & Take Responsibility
Probably one of the best pieces of advice that I could give you, would be to take responsibility for where you are at in life. As difficult as it may be to blame yourself, let’s face it, we are all responsible for where we are at. We may not always be able to control the obstacles that life throws at us, but we always have the power of perception and how we allow these obstacles to impact our lives.
Taking responsibility for my actions and where I am at in life has brought a new sense of gratification and happiness to my life – one in which I never knew existed. It’s helped me to realize that:
- Without the love and support of others, I would not be where I am today.
- Without enduring the obstacles that I have faced, I would not be as strong as I am today.
- Life truly is a blessing and every moment that passes is one in which we will never get back.
What’s The Point of Complaining?
One thing that I was forced to ask myself, was what’s the point of complaining all the time? What good was it doing me to go around and complain about everything that was wrong in my life instead of appreciating all that was right? And let me say, there is a lot more right in my life than there is wrong…
There is so much in life to be grateful for. I have my family, I have my friends, I have a roof over my head, I have an education, I have the ability to be whatever I want to be in life, and how about the simple fact that I am breathing. I am living the greatest gift… there is nothing that I should be complaining about.
Be Grateful For More
I’m not saying that life is perfect, but it’s also not worth it to allow the bad things in life to overshadow all of the good that there is on a daily basis.
We all go through struggles. Instead of focusing on the struggles though, why not focus on all that we are blessed with? There is so much around us to be thankful for, all we need to do is open our eyes and see it.
Try taking some time and practicing gratitude. Be thankful for the space the surrounds you, for the people who love you, for the friends that adore you, and for the gift that you are living. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and the more grateful we are for the blessings that we already have, the happier we will be.
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