I have been alive and kicking for nearly 27 years now. During these 27 years, I have learned this: life is 100% what you make it out to be. Nobody controls your actions, nobody controls your future, and nobody controls your perspective. You are responsible for you.
Now you may be thinking about everything that has happened to you up to this point in your life. You might be thinking of all of the people that have done you wrong, all of the times you have failed, or all of the hardships you have encountered up to this point in your life.
I get it, you haven’t had control of every situation that you have experienced so far in life. You don’t always control how others treat you or of the actions of the world around you. But one thing you will always have control over is your perception.
The good news about controlling your own perception is that you control your destiny. All of those limiting beliefs you are feeling, they are just beliefs. It does not make them true and it does not make them permanent. Just as you have the power to direct the direction you take in life, you also have the power to change and overcome all of the limiting beliefs you are feeling.
What Are Limiting Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are those that constrain us in some way. Just by believing them, we do not think, do or say the things that they inhibit. And in doing so, we impoverish our lives.
They are assumptions are shaped by the way we have perceived our experiences in life. They hold us back from achieving our full potential and doing all that we are capable of achieving.
To give you a few examples, limiting beliefs would be along the lines of:
- I’m too young to deserve a high-paying job.
- I’m too old to get hired for a new job.
- I’m too dumb to start my own successful business.
- No matter what I do, I am not capable of achieving success.
The thing about these beliefs is that they are 100 percent entirely NOT TRUE! It doesn’t matter how young or old you are, your gender, or anything along that nature. The only thing that matters is the belief you have in yourself and your drive to continue to move forward.
7 Limiting Beliefs You Need To Let Go Of
There are a few common limiting beliefs you need to let go of if you want to have a better life for yourself. I have held these limiting beliefs for years, and it wasn’t until I changed my mindset that I was finally able to find joy and happiness within my life. Now, I want to share with you those 7 limiting beliefs you need to let go of so that you can take back your life and really be proud of who you are as an individual.
1. I Need To Be Perfect At Everything I Do
Here’s the thing about perfection… it’s never going to happen. No matter how good you may be at something, there is always going to be room for improvement.
I spend many years of my life trying to chase this mental image of perfection. But who’s image was I chasing? We all have a different picture of what perfection looks like, so what you might see as perfection would hold many flaws to someone else.
My best piece of advice for you is to quit trying to be perfect. Accept the fact that you will never be perfect, and instead, simply try to be the best that you can be.
2. Making Mistakes Is Not Acceptable
I actually believe this. I believed that making mistakes only showed my weaknesses in a world where I was only trying to show strength.
The thing about weaknesses is that they are all learning experiences. You can’t learn anything new if you aren’t first willing to give yourself the opportunity to break out of your comfort zone and at least try.
Making mistakes isn’t a weakness by any means. It’s when you allow those mistakes to knock you down and not find the strength to get back up that shows weakness. So in other words, make mistakes but never let them keep you down.
3. I Need To Be Successful In Order To Be Liked and Loved
I always had this belief that in order to be liked by others and in order to be loved, then I had to be successful. I thought that my success determined how others thought about me.
To some extent, it might. But if others only like or love you based on what you have accomplished in life, then they probably aren’t the types of individuals you want to have in your life.
You want to surround yourself with those who are going to love you for who you are – those that will pick you up even when you are feeling down. Who you are as a person is far more valuable than anything you may or may not accomplish in life. Surround yourself with those who see your true value and love you for who you are. It will make your journey of finding success all that much easier.
4. I Am Not Deserving Of Spoiling Myself
Not going to lie, this is still something that I have trouble with. I am a person who loves saving money. So much so that I very rarely spend money on things I don’t need.
I have always had this thought that if I want something, then I need to work even harder to achieve it, and only once I proved myself would I then buy something.
The thing is, this can cause you to fall into a never-ending rabbit hole. If you keep pushing off treating yourself only until you have achieve one goal after another, you aren’t ever going to be able to enjoy life. Take it from someone who has been there and still deals with this. Start rewarding yourself for all of your hard work and enjoy the things in life that matter the most to you.
5. I Need To Skip The Fun Now So I Can Have Fun Later
Again, have fun in life. Yes, you should work hard, but you should also separate your work from your personal life. When you are done with work, leave it at work. When you are home, have fun.
We fall victim to the idea that we need to devote our lives to work now so that we can enjoy life later. But what if later never comes? What if we continue down this path and spend our lives only working? Will it be worth it then?
This is something that I am having to embrace, but use PTO. If your company gives it to you, take that time to disconnect, do something fun, recharge your mind, and just enjoy your life. It makes no sense to let work consume your life today when tomorrow is all but certain.
6. Real Men Never Admit Their Weaknesses
Let me tell you about a very humbling experience I recently had. A few weeks ago, I planned a cheat day with my parents in order to help retrain my mind how to eat again. I’m nearly 27 and had to ask for their help.
Do you think that was easy? Absolutely not! But the reason I am doing this at 27 is because I failed to do it at 22. I used to believe that men don’t admit their weaknesses, especially ones like eating disorders. And because I waited so long to confront the problem, it only grew in strength.
Everybody has weaknesses. Whether it’s depression, not being a good employee, being negative, being rude to others, or eating disorders, everybody has flaws. After confronting my issues, I realized that it takes a stronger man/woman to admit their issues than to hide them.
If you want to change your life for the better, one step is to confront your issues so you can get your life back on track. Take control of what’s yours and hold nothing back.
7. I Don’t Define My Success. Others Do
I used to need validation from others that I was living a successful life. I used to crave the approval of others and for others to look at me and say “Man, I want his life.” Guess where this got me? Nowhere!
The opinions of others mean nothing. If you want to find success in life, you need to look in the mirror and first define what success means to you. Just like how everybody has different opinions, everybody is going to have a different image of what it looks like to be successful. Don’t let your vision of success be controlled by somebody else’s vision. Follow YOUR vision, follow YOUR dreams, and live the life that YOU are deserving of.
Before You Go
You are in charge of how you think and how you perceive the world around you. These beliefs do not define who you are as an individual or the life you are capable of having. So take back your life and stop believing anything that is going to hold you back. It simply isn’t worth it.