Do you find yourself dealing with negative thoughts? Is there that little voice inside of your head that is telling you that you aren’t good enough – the same voice that causes anxiety, stress, and depression? What are some of the things that you can do to overcome negative thoughts?
Negative thoughts are incredibly difficult to deal with. They can leave you feeling hopeless and can suck away all of the enjoyment from life. And the more you give in to your negative thoughts, the more powerful they become.
Experiencing Negative Thoughts
The last few days have been a challenge to say the least. I feel as if I am going through one of those phases where everything is cloudy, I am constantly tired, and it’s difficult to focus, let alone focus on anything positive. I am constantly on edge, my anxiety has been consuming my every consuming, and I feel as if I am slowly starting to lose my mind.
When I find myself experiencing negative thoughts, I have noticed that I revert back into old habits. My desire grows to find any sense of comfort or familiarity, so I find myself trying to overly control every aspect of my life. I become food and health-conscious, I quit spending money, and I start to shut myself off from the world. Unfortunately, that’s what I have been doing for the last few days.
Just yesterday, I was beginning to experience these negative thoughts at work. I started questioning whether or not I was good enough, whether I was capable of ever achieving my goals, or whether anybody actually cared about me. I took a break and tried to recollect my thoughts, but no matter how hard I tried to focus, my mind just simply wouldn’t cooperate.
Now I know the answer to all of my negative thoughts. I know that I AM good enough, that I AM capable of achieving my goals, and that I AM loved, but it’s a lot more difficult to focus on all of the good in life when you are in a negative state of mind.
As I am going through this phase (hopefully on the backend of it), I am forcing myself to remember that I am not alone. As alone as I may feel, we all go through these phases. Everybody experiences challenges and obstacles, which is why I have been forcing myself to remember that everything will be alright – everything is figureoutable.
5 Ways To Overcome Negative Thoughts
In case you are experiencing the same emotions that I currently am, I want to share with you 5 things that help me to overcome negative thoughts. No, they are not immediate fixes, but for me, I generally start to find a sense of happiness and positivity within a day or two.
1. Talk with those you love.
I woke up this morning feeling stressed and as if the weight of the world was on my shoulders. My mind was racing, my body was tense, and my breathing was shallow. So, I went upstairs, made some coffee, and went to somebody who has always been there for me – my sister.
I told her how I was feeling, the thoughts that I was feeling, and what has contributed to these thoughts. As somebody who deals with anxiety and depression, she gets it. She knows what it’s like to go through rough patches, which is why I feel comfortable talking to her.
For me, it was nice to be able to release my emotions without having to worry about being judged. It was nice to be able to get those thoughts off of my chest and slowly start to lift the weight that was bearing down on me. Even simply by talking with her about my negative thoughts the emotions were slowly starting to dissipate.
We are not alone. No matter what we are feeling, how much we are hurting, or the stress that is running through our minds, there will always be somebody out there that we can relate to. Those who love you care about you the most. Start by talking with them and release the chaos that is running through your mind.
2. Write down uplifting affirmations.
As I was sitting at work last night, I was trying my best to focus on the positives. One of the things that I like to do regardless of if I am in a good or bad mood is to write down some of the things that I am grateful for, and some positive affirmations.
I was trying to focus on what my goals were and to paint that image in my mind for how I want my life to look, but I couldn’t think clearly for the life of me. The more I tried to paint that image, the more difficult it became and the more angry and upset I was becoming.
After a few minutes of beating myself up, I forced myself to slow down and focused on writing down some positive affirmations. It wasn’t until I wrote down “Believe in yourself and have faith” until I was able to calm my thoughts. There was just something about this saying that hit home with me. From there, the words poured out.
I AM good enough. I AM capable of achieving my goals. I AM capable of greatness. I AM loved.
These were the words that I wrote, and once I wrote them, I think I took the first deep breath that I had been able to take all day.
Never forget all that you are. The negatives are going to try to steal your light, but you are so much more. Write down some affirmations, repeat them over and over and over until you believe them, and let your true light shine.
3. Take responsibility for what’s yours.
When I experience negative emotions, I constantly remind myself of all of those who have done me wrong in the past. I sometimes find myself playing the victim game as a way to feel better about myself.
Why did this person treat me like that?
Why did I have to experience the difficulty that I did?
Why was I put through the situations that I was?
It’s something that we all do, but personally speaking, it only makes me feel worse. It reminds me of all of the bad that has happened to me instead of actually focusing on all that I have been blessed with. That’s why, if you want to overcome negative thoughts, you need to take responsibility for what’s yours – you need to take responsibility for your life.
You are in control of your own life. It is up to you to be open and communicative about the emotions that you are feeling. It is up to you to find the strength to ask for help when you need it most. It is up to you to overcome negative thoughts by filling your mind with as many positive ones as you possibly can and by believing in yourself.
4. Be conscious of your thoughts.
I think part of the reason that I have been experiencing these negative thoughts for as long as I have is because I have been going at such a rapid pace that I haven’t really taken the time to slow down and collect my thoughts. As I have been constantly running around trying to accomplish anything and everything, the chaos in my mind has been building. Now, it’s reaching a boiling point.
I will admit that I pride myself on working hard. When I am not at work, I always need to be doing something else. Whether it is writing, working out, or picking up a part-time job on the weekends, I am always on the go. And because I have not taken the time to be conscious of my thoughts, these negative thoughts have continued to build until they became strong enough to consume me.
Just like our bodies need rest and attention to heal properly, so too do our minds. In the fast-paced world that we live in, we all need to do a better job of slowing down and focusing on our thoughts. We all need to be more conscious of the thoughts that we allow into our minds.
5. Get some good sleep.
A few nights ago, I ended up getting a horrible night’s sleep. I slept a lot less than I normally do. Instead of getting my usual seven to eight hours of sleep, I ended up only getting six.
When I woke up the next day, I went through my typical morning routine as if nothing had happened. Over the course of the day, I started to develop a headache, I became increasingly tired, and the clouds in my mind began to roll in.
I know that some people can function on little sleep, but I am not one of those people. Plus, when your body is used to getting a decent amount of sleep, anything less can severely impact your ability to think clearly. So, to make up for my lack of sleep a few nights prior, I found myself in bed early last night and ended up getting a good nine hours of sleep. While I probably need another good night’s sleep in order to get back to “normal,” I am slowly starting to feel better.
Everybody needs sleep. A lack of sleep is one of the major causes of negative thinking.
It can greatly affect your mood, causing you to feel anxious, irritable, and angry. That’s why, in order to overcome negative thoughts, it’s recommended to get as close to eight hours of sleep as you possibly can.
Again, I am not going to say that these strategies are going to instantly turn your mood around because they won’t. But within the course of a day or two, these are some of the techniques that I use to help me to overcome negative thoughts.
If nothing else, it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Reflect on past times where you have felt similar thoughts to what you are feeling now and recollect what you did to overcome those thoughts. Try to implement those techniques into your life now. We are all different, but none of us deserve to allow our negative thought to consume our lives.