Everybody wants to be happier in life, and for good reason. Being happier makes life far more enjoyable to live.
It doesn’t matter how many sunny days we experience, we always want more. It doesn’t matter how many things go well, we always want more. It doesn’t matter how positive and happy we are, we always want to be more.
Happiness isn’t something that’s all too difficult to feel. For some reason, we just make it more of a challenge than it needs to be. Maybe this stems from the fact that we always do want more instead of accepting and being grateful for what we already have.
Regardless, happiness is something that we all deserve to experience in our lives, and I want to help you find that sense of happiness.
Overcoming A Negative Mindset
I spent much of my life in such a negative state of mind that I don’t want anybody to experience the mental roadblocks that I once had. I had become so fixated on being accepted by those around me and trying to be the person that others wanted me to be to the point that I began to despise the very life I was living.
Over time, I began to lash out at those who were closest to me. I began to treat others as if I was superior to them, and my daily actions were incredibly arrogant. Basically, everything had to go my way or I would make life miserable not only for myself, but for those around me as well.
It’s not that I enjoyed being a negative person, I simply just didn’t know how to change. When you are in as negative of a state of mind as I was, it becomes far easier to blame life around you and the circumstances in which you are in versus holding yourself accountable. I felt very little pride in myself the way it was, and I feared that holding myself accountable would have sucked out every last ounce.
Over the last few years, though, I have started to change. After hitting an all-time rock bottom, I no longer cared if I felt zero pride in myself. All I knew is that I felt miserable about my life and that something had to change.
What’s funny now, is that the changes seem so small, but at the time, it felt as if I was having to move mountains.
The biggest change that I had to overcome was letting go of what others thought about me. I had lived the majority of my life consumed by the beliefs and opinions of others, and no matter how unhealthy that might be, letting go of something you have done for the vast majority of your life is no easy task.
One of the things that helped me to find happiness wasn’t necessarily to look at my life and find things to do that made me happy. As I said earlier, there was very little that made me happy. So instead, I focused on eliminating some of the things that made me unhappy.
5 Small Mindset Hacks To Find Happiness
After a lot of time, effort, and yes, many struggles along the way, here are 5 small mindset hacks to find happiness, or at least ones that have helped me to find happiness in my life.
1. Let Go of What Others Think
It’s hard. Not only do we strive to be happy in life, but we also want to be liked. Nobody enjoys feeling alone or left out. When we do feel these ways, it often makes us question ourselves and our worth.
The truth is, you are never going to be able to please everybody. No matter how hard you try, the person to your left is always going to have a different opinion of you than the person to your right.
While it’s not hard to realize at first, it’s important to remember that there is no one or right wrong way to live your life. As long as you are not harming yourself or those around you, the only way you should live your life is your way. Everybody has a life to live and so do you. Don’t allow others to live their life and live yours. Make the most out of the one and only life that you are blessed enough to have.
2. See Failure As Opportunities
I hated failing. To be completely honest, I still hate failing. But the difference is, now I have a changed mindset and see my failures in a different light.
Before, I would allow my failures to define me. If I failed, I would see it as life’s way of telling me that I wasn’t good enough, would beat myself up, and move onto the next thing that I was bound to fail at.
Now, I see failure as a way to grow from the person that I was yesterday into the person I am trying to become tomorrow. Just because I fail doesn’t mean I should give up. It means that I should learn from my mistakes, get back up on my two feet, and continue to make progress until I achieve whatever it is that I am seeking.
This is what separates successful individuals from unsuccessful individuals. It’s what separates strong individuals from weak individuals. It’s what separates happy individuals from unhappy individuals.
Don’t allow your failures to stop you from achieving your goals in life. Get back up on your feet, build on the person you were, and continue to move forward with everything you have. In doing so, you will find a sense of happiness and pride that you never knew existed.
3. Find Small Things to be Grateful For
Do you want to know what’s crazy about life? At any time, this life that we are living could be taken away from us. We don’t know if we will be alive in 10 years, in 2 years, or even later today for that matter. With that said, why not be grateful for every moment and treat it as if it’s our last?
When I hit rock-bottom, I struggled to find anything to be grateful for. My mind was always foggy, I had zero confidence in any of my abilities, and I wondered if life would ever get better.
It wasn’t until I started focusing on the little things in life that I was able to find a sense of happiness. At first, I had to force myself to find things to be grateful for. I had become so accustomed to expecting different things that I never gave them the gratitude they deserved.
- A job
- A roof over my head
- Food in my stomach
When was the last time you expressed gratitude for any of these things? Because we are so used to them, we forget to give them the gratitude they deserve. But if we take the time to show gratitude for “the little things in life,” we will surely find more happiness.
4. Do What You Know Is Right
For me, I was so focused on what others thought of me that I wouldn’t only listen to what they said, I would also do what they said.
In some cases, this led to stupid decisions; ones in which I am not proud of and never was proud of making. I always felt this pit in my stomach because I knew that what I was doing wasn’t the right thing, but I was so miserable that I saw any attention as good attention.
What I didn’t realize for a very long time is that when you do good, you receive good. Not necessarily in the form of gifts or belongings, but emotions towards yourself as well.
When I started to let go of what others thoughts about me, I went out of my way and purposely focused on being kind to others. In doing so, not only did others smile and say thank you, but I also felt a sense of internal happiness in knowing that what I was doing was helping to make somebody else’s life a little bit easier, and also that I was helping to make the world a better place.
As Gary Vaynerchuck constantly says, “Doing the right thing is always the right thing.”
5. Focus on Progression, Not Perfection
Lastly, if you want to find happiness in your life, focus on progression, not perfection.
I know that this is incredibly challenging to do, especially when all you want in life is to feel good about yourself, but just know that there is no such thing as perfection. No matter what you or I accomplish in life, there is always going to be room for improvement.
Once I gave up on trying to be perfect, there was this stress that was lifted off of my shoulders. I suddenly felt as if I was able to breathe; as if I was able to see the light at the end of a dark tunnel.
Giving up on perfection was one of the best things that I ever did for myself. Not only has it made me happier, but I have also taken more chances on myself, found new strengths, and created memories that I used to only dream of making. While it isn’t always easy to let go of perfection, it is always worth it to do so.
I am a true believer that life is what you make it to be. I am also a true believer that everybody has the strength and ability to find happiness and live the life that they desire. Not just because I have changed my life around, but because we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for.
Life isn’t always easy, but nobody said that it was ever going to be easy. We just have to be willing to make the most out of the opportunities that life throws our way, to always challenge and push ourselves, and to be grateful for every passing moment as it may be the last one that we get.
Doing these things has helped me to find more happiness in my life than I could have ever imagined, and I am confident that they will do the same for you as well.