“Why do I feel like such a failure? Why do I fail at everything I do?”
How many times have you asked yourself these questions or felt this way? If so, join the club. I have asked myself these very questions more times than I can possibly count.
Failure is normal. Failure is part of being human. As humans, we make mistakes – more than we think or know. It’s just a part of life.
Think about a goal that you have set out for or something you really wanted in your life that you haven’t yet been able to achieve. How many thoughts and desires come to your mind?
For me, the amount is astronomical. I have failed far more times than I have succeeded. But surprisingly, I’m okay with that. While I thought that I was an outcast for the number of times I experienced failure, the truth of the matter is that we all experience failure on a daily basis.
The problem is that we live in a world where success is put on a pedestal, while failure is looked down upon. The line of thinking is that if you’ve failed, you are either weak, or there must be something wrong with you.
This is so far from true. Failing at one thing doesn’t mean that your entire life is one big failure. The only true failure in life is when you stop trying. That’s when you really fail and stop living.
Failure Is A Stepping-Stone For Success
Success isn’t built on success. Nobody is born being more successful or capable of more success than others. Rather, success is built on failures. The more you are willing to try, the more you are willing to learn. The more you are willing to learn what doesn’t work, the closer you get to figuring out what does. That’s all success is – figuring out what works and what doesn’t.
The only way to change what isn’t working in your life is to at least give yourself a chance. This can be painful and challenging for some. It requires that you drop your excuses and break out of your comfort zone. Nobody wants to come face-to-face with their flaws, but it’s necessary if you want to change your life for the better.
I am a firm believer that your mind is your only limitation. You are capable of achieving anything and everything you set your mind to, even when it makes you feel uncomfortable.
When you know the reasons why you’re failing time and time again, you start to see things differently. You start to think outside of the box and start testing different methods that can potentially contribute to your success. This is the moment at which you can start turning your failure into a powerful plan of action to kickstart your life.
3 Reasons Why You Fail at What You Do
There are many things that can contribute to failure, but here are 3 of the most common reasons. Once you learn to avoid these reasons, you will be well on your way to mastering the rest of your life.
1. You Blame Others Instead of Taking Responsibility
The “R” work sucks, and it’s one I avoided using for many years. Every time I failed, I would blame others instead of holding myself accountable. In doing so, I began to feel resentment towards others, but there was also this feeling inside of me that also began to feel resentment towards myself.
It wasn’t until I began to look in the mirror and hold myself responsible that I was able to change my life. Even if something wasn’t necessarily my fault, I still played a part in it. At the very least, I always had control of my perception.
If you want to fix any problem in your life, you have to be willing to own it. Sure, maybe life has given you more challenges than it has for others. I know how easy it can be to blame others or the world for your problems. However, that mindset won’t get you anywhere.
You control you, nobody else. Think of yourself as the driver of your life and the CEO of your mind. There is nobody to blame past yourself. You are in charge of you and everybody under you. If you continue to blame others instead of taking responsibility, you are only going to experience more failure.
My best piece of advice for you would be to drop the excuses and take ownership of every action you take, every outcome in your life, and every thought you think. If you can do that, I promise that you will start thriving.
2. You Don’t Believe In Your Strengths
A few statistics for you…
The first is that everybody will have a million-dollar idea at some point in their life. The reason many never see that through is because they don’t act on it.
The second is that over the course of your life, the sum of the challenges you have overcome will outweigh any single challenge you experience.
What’s the point of me sharing this? It’s to get you to start believing in yourself. Belief is the foundation of everything in life. We can’t achieve anything in life if we first don’t start by believing.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you will only sabotage your success and continue to come up short in everything you do. The act of failing will sabotage your mind into thinking that you’re a failure and not deserving of success.
This is why it’s so important to recognize the thoughts in which you are thinking, to realize all in which you’re truly capable of achieving, and to question any limitations.
Question every single negative thought that you have. Once you become aware that you are not the opinions of others or the little voice inside of your head, your negative thoughts will grow weaker and weaker, and your self-belief will become stronger and stronger.
You are you, and that is your greatest strength. It always has been and will always continue to be.
3. You Give Up Before You Really Even Start
Nothing worth having in life is ever going to come easy, and nothing that comes easy in life is ever going to be worth having.
Every day there are people in this world who do the impossible. There are college dropouts who are becoming some of the most successful individuals this work has to offer. Have you ever wondered how that happens?
It’s simple. It’s a combination of everything we’ve talked about so far. These people have taken full responsibility for their lives, they don’t allow others or their failures to control their outcome, and they don’t give up.
Even when all of the cards are stacked up against them, they don’t stop. If you give up the moment that you encounter a challenge, you’ve officially wasted every second you have put into something. You will never know what potentially could have been.
This is why someone who either never starts or just gives up will never finish. They jump from one thing to the next in hopes that things will be easier. Again, nothing in life will come easy, and if you expect that it will, you will never achieve anything worth having.
Before You Go
It’s a guarantee that you are going to fail. All that matters is how you react when you do. The next time you feel like giving up, I want you to think about why you started in the first place.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I fail at everything?” well, now you know the reasons.
You are in full control of yourself and where you are currently at in life. If you want to be successful, you have to be willing to do what others won’t so that someday you will be able to do what others can’t.
Be willing to fail, be willing to learn, and be willing to succeed.