There is no worse feeling in the world than the feeling of having absolutely zero confidence in yourself. Low levels of self-confidence can cause you to question yourself and question whether you have what it takes to achieve anything meaningful in life. It can cause you to question your every move, your appearance, and it can also leave you feeling weak and vulnerable.
Doesn’t sound like an enjoyable way to live your life, does it?
Nobody wants to feel this way. In fact, I dare say that we all want to feel the exact opposite. We all want to feel unstoppable and as if we are on top of the world. We want to be able to walk into a room with the ability to stand tall, to seize potential opportunities, to take more chances, and to feel confident enough to take the next steps in our lives and/or careers.
Imagine feeling that way more often. How incredible would that be? How would feeling more confident in yourself impact your life, your health, your well-being, your career, and the relationships in your life?
The good news is that you can be more confident in yourself, and in doing so, you can take back control of your life. Along with action, confidence is the cornerstone of success. By taking the action necessary to be more confident in yourself, there isn’t anything that you won’t be able to achieve.
I want to share with you 10 mental hacks to help you be more confident in yourself. These are the same tips that I have used in my life to go from feeling small, weak, and vulnerable, to being happier, stronger, and more capable than I have ever felt before.
This isn’t a recipe that you need to follow to a tee. Pick what tips stand out to you the most and give them a try. If they work, that’s awesome! If they don’t work, try to implement others in your life and see if they work.
1. Be open to learning.
This is the biggest thing that has helped me to be more confident in myself.
There are two main mindsets – a fixed mindset, and a growth mindset. A fixed mindset is somebody who believes that individuals are either born with confidence, or they’re not. If you are born with confidence in yourself, then you will have it for the rest of your life. If you are not born feeling confident in yourself, then surely there is nothing that you can do to ever fully feel confident.
A growth mindset is somebody who recognized the ability to learn and to grow. Individuals who embrace a growth mindset are the ones who realize that just like any attribute and ability, self-confidence is something that needs to be practiced in order to feel more of it. They are the ones who go into each day asking how they can learn and grow on the individual they were from the day before.
The point is, develop a growth mindset. Being more confident in yourself isn’t an attribute that can’t be improved on. Be open to learning, be open to experimenting, and be open to failing. The more you replace your fixed mindset with a growth mindset, the more confident you will be in yourself.
2. Practice visualization.
Positive visualization is a great way to help you to be more confident in yourself. Take a moment to close your eyes, think about how you want your life to look like, and then see yourself living that life. Oftentimes, when we have low levels of self-confidence, it is because we have a poor perception of ourselves. If we can change that perception into a more positive one, then we are going to be more likely to achieve the life that we want to live.
Whether it’s taking a test, going into a meeting, or simply achieving a personal goal, visualize yourself succeeding. As we all know, the mind is incredibly powerful. What it believes, it often achieves.
3. Start your day with positive affirmations.
This is another thing that has helped me to feel more confident in myself. It’s similar to visualization in the sense that it helps your mind to focus on your strengths instead of on your weaknesses.
Every morning, right when I wake up, I will repeat some positive affirmations to myself (positive and uplifting statements). Thing such as:
- Today is going to be a great day.
- I am capable of achieving any goal that I am willing to work for.
- I am strong. I am good looking. I am loved.
- I am me and that is my greatest power.
Why this works is because you are essentially training your mind to focus on all that you are capable of achieving right when you wake up instead of focusing on things that you may lack. If you can train your mind to focus on your strengths before you get the day started, you will have a much easier time carrying that attitude with you throughout the rest of the day.
4. Move on to what you are grateful for.
The next thing that I will do every morning, is I will write down five things that I am grateful for in life. This has the same benefits as positive affirmations do. If you can focus on all of the good that already fills your life instead of the negative, you will have a much easier time carrying a positive mindset with you throughout the rest of the day. Life will be more enjoyable. Challenges won’t seem as difficult to overcome. And because it’s the main topic, you will feel more confident in yourself.
5. Set yourself up to win.
One of the best ways to be more confident in yourself is to set yourself up for success. There are so many people out there who set monstrous goals with very little expectation of actually achieving these goals. The only thing that they are doing is killing their confidence.
Set goals for yourself that you know you can achieve. I have become a firm believer in the whole “make your bed” movement. It’s easy for me to do, it takes less than a minute of my time, and it allows me to check off one accomplishment within two minutes of waking up. I’m not going to say that you need to do this, but for me, being able to complete a task right away in the morning has definitely attributed to my increased confidence.
6. Record your accomplishments.
No, this isn’t to say that you need to go around bragging about everything that you have achieved. Instead, keep a journal or a list of some of your fears that you have managed to overcome.
The objective of this is to be able to look back and recall the times when you have, in fact, overcome challenges in your past. Life is going to present many more challenges along the way, and if you are able to reflect on a past experience when you have overcome similar challenges, you are going to feel more confident in your ability to do it once again.
7. Push aside limiting thoughts and beliefs.
Remember when you were a child and you were told to go after your dreams? What happened to that belief? Oh yeah, we started listening to others tell us what we could and couldn’t achieve.
The truth is (within reason, of course), we can achieve anything that we put our minds to. Look back at how much you have already achieved over the course of your life. You started out not even being able to walk or talk, and now here you are.
If you want to be more confident in yourself, then you need to push past your limiting thoughts and beliefs. There are always going to be others who are going to try and tell you how to live your life. Just do everything you can do to continue to challenge yourself and grow into the person you want to become.
8. Help those who are in need.
Helping others can help us to remember how good we actually have it in life. As I said earlier, the more we focus on the good in life, the more confident we feel.
It also helps to take your mind off of the things that are dragging you down and helps you to realize how much change you have the potential to create. You will feel better about yourself in knowing that you are helping to improve the life of somebody else.
So the next time that you are lacking confidence in yourself, go out of your way to do something nice for others and give back. Volunteer in your community, hold the door open for strangers, shovel your neighbor’s driveway or mow their lawn. Whatever you can do to create a positive environment around you, do it and you will see your confidence grow.
9. Do what makes you happy.
There’s something about being happy that also helps you to feel more confident. It seems that the happier you are, the taller you seem to stand, the easier it is to make clear and decisive decisions, and the more chances you are willing to take on yourself.
So what can you do to feel more confident on a more frequent basis? Do more of the things that make you happy. Everybody has hobbies that they enjoy doing. For me, I enjoy reading, golfing, spending time with family and friends, etc. When I am doing these things, I am happier, and when I am happier, I have noticed that the confidence I have in myself is significantly increased.
10. Take care of yourself.
It’s hard to feel good or confident in yourself when you don’t take care of yourself. And why wouldn’t you? Your body is your home! Give it the proper sleep and rest that it needs, nourish it for optimal performance, and refrain from doing anything that may be harmful to your body.
Do the same for your mind as well. Read more books, meditate for a few minutes a day, practice self-reflection and self-love.
Make self-care a top priority of yours. When you feel good about yourself both mentally and physically, you will feel more confident. If you need to take it a step further, go out and pamper yourself. Get a haircut, buy some new clothes, or just treat yourself simply because you deserve to.
What are some of the things that you do to feel more confident in yourself?